My personality, EXPLORER:
I find my way without a compass. Like all explorers I’m driven in life by a combination of curiosity, imagination, and unrelenting energy. I’m not a conformist and typically choose the path less traveled. Sometimes I think my life has not turned out the way I had expected it to. I have the gift and the curse of being able to envision the way my future could be. I’m kind and compassionate, I have a sensual nature. I’m pretty good at balancing efforts to be assertive while looking for a compromise and a short term solution. I take constructive criticism well as long as I don’t see it as a threat. I avoid saying things that would insult a person because there is no need to add fuel to the fire during an argument. I don’t like to yell and will not be yelled at.

What I Find Sexy:
I find intelligence, creativeness, outward playful sexuality, and ambition sexy. I want a woman that will be equally turned on by my intellect. Women that are less concerned about what other people think and can be blunt at times. I prefer frank honestly over mixed messages. I give special attention to women that are punctual, and that can remain on some friendly term with past loves (but not too friendly). I need a partner that can pick her battles, wants to keep conflicts to a minimum, and does not keep me in the dark about what has made her angry.

My Sex Style:
Sex should feel fun and natural, to be enjoyed and not to be analyzed. It should be passionate, true it often starts off with a lot of physical focus but with time it moves towards intimacy, to get there good chemistry and some commitment from both of us is required. It’s important to me to find a partner who has similar sexual energy. A woman’s sexuality as far as being heterosexual or bisexual doesn’t concern me as long as I know who I’m going home with. I think I have a higher libido than most men and need a woman that enjoys her sex too. Be it the long build up to a mind blowing climax or the “walk in, grab each other and hump like rabbits on the floor while the ice-cream melts” quickie. My biggest challenge is to know when to move ahead. I often feel pulled in two directions, wanting to be spontaneous, while part of me can be too cautious. I have found that sex is most fun when we just go with the chemistry without an agenda. I prefer women that are honest and open about what they like and don’t like sexually. I think it’s unfair when they expect me to read their minds in the bedroom. I like women can approach sex as an escape, and as a way to totally let go and surrender to animal drive.

Not Perfect, Not by a long shot:
At times I can be too rational, and this can be viewed as unemotional. I could learn to be more empathic and sensitive to people’s emotions. I also can miss what another person’s hidden feelings are. This can be problematic, most women like it when the man can anticipate their needs without the asking. I do have pretty good radar but it works best when a woman turns up emotional volume to get my attention. Sometimes I can be too open-minded where some adherence to protocol is required. I can be seen as impulsive by people that think everything through. In a heated conflict I sometimes struggle to remain calm, it can interfere with my ability to think and speak clearly. If criticism turns personal it can and often does hurt my feelings.

My Stumbling Blocks:
1. NO ONE LIKES TO BE ANALYZED – On a date you probably can hear the mental gears turning. Most women don’t mind my insight as long as it does not the focus of a critique.
2. PACE WHAT EMOTIONS ARE SHOWN AND WHEN – I think most people are richly complex, I can be extroverted and this makes it very important to think about what I share and when it’s the right time to do so.
3. BAGGAGE – We all have baggage, I’m working on it.